After writing another post I decided to talk a little about being the spiritual man of my house.
Now although it is fairly unpopular today I believe in a Biblical distinction between male and female roles. This idea is called complimentarianism as it is believed that the roles compliment one another. The belief that there is no distinction of roles called for is called egalitarianism. Please understand that I believe both men and woman are equally image bearers of God and are both loved equally. Gal 3:28-29 tells us that
There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. 29 And if you are Christ’s, then you are Abraham’s offspring, heirs according to promise.”
When it comes to our salvation I believe we are all equal before the Lord. However just as the Son submits himself to the Father and we are to submit our selves to our local church leadership, I believe wives are called to submit to their own husbands. Eph 5:22.
Now believe me when I say I am not always thrilled about this idea. Sin manifests in many ways in my life and very often it is in the form of complacency and laziness. I wish I could reject my authority and leave everything of to my wife. Many men do and it is a constant temptation to many I have talked to. It would make life so much easier but I don’t believe that is my calling.
I am called to lead my home spiritually but I was never quite sure what that is supposed to look like. While my father was a great man in many ways he never filled this role so I really didn’t see it modeled in my house. I have seen glimpses of it in the lives of some men I have admired but never really took the time to learn as I assumed it would come naturally when the time came. (That is a mistake, don’t make it)
This year Heather and I have been reading through the Bible together and it has opened the door to many opportunities to share the gospel with one another. Leading our community group has forced us to take the time to discuss things we are learning in church, which has also been awesome.
Men if you are not already, find a way to lead your wife. It is part of being a husband and a man.
So, do you do it? How?